A good jack-off falls somewhere between agony and prayer. In the shower, I make the same face Mary makes in Bernini sculptures. Some people consider masturbation a second-tier sexual experience. There is a problem in the way we talk about self-pleasure. Self-care is often seen as shameful, embarrassing, or unimportant in our social-obsessed culture. But self-pleasure is something nearly everyone does, something everyone should do, and something we could all do better.
Because let's be real, everyone is different and has their own preferences, which means there are a lot of questions out there. You could be wondering: How the hell do I orgasm? What kind of sex toy do I buy? And, um, is there a safe way of doing things? To help, we rounded up our top masturbation advice — from both experts and normal masturbation-loving people — so that you can make sure your body is getting the proper love and attention it deserves. Okay, get reading! I turn down the lights and start my shower hot so the bathroom is nice and steamy.
We've already given you a guide for how to masturbate if you have a vagina. But what if you have a penis? Here's your guide for that, too — and yes, there actually is a lot to learn. This is giving very little credit to the art of masturbation and the multitude of pathways to explore, regardless of which set of reproductive organs you possess. Masturbation is a healthy practice and you should in no way feel ashamed for wanting to engage in it.
My discreet newsletter will teach you the best masturbation techniques for powerful orgasms, along with the 5 Dangerous Mistakes you make in your sex life. Click here to get it. The other great reason to read this article is to understand fully your anatomy and what parts of your vagina give you the most pleasure, which seems to be key to having an orgasm during masturbation [ 1 ]. Quick Warning: While this tutorial video is quite distressing, it will teach you how to make your man scream with pleasure and become sexually addicted to you. The key is trying them all out and then figuring out which ones you enjoy the most.